Believe in Love, Damnit!

Okay, this has gone on long enough. All of my closest friends have, at some point this week, told me that they don't believe in love. Even the person I am in love with has told me she doesn't believe in love. When I asked for the reasons why the answers have varied. One of my friends even said "it's a chemical imbalance" (u ignent for that shit btw). But the conclusion was the same. It all boiled down to "I've been hurt, so I don't believe in love."

To this, I say, respectfully, GET THE FUCK OFF THE BULLSHIT.

Listen, and listen good. When you say you don't believe in love, you don't mean you don't believe in love. What you mean is that you're scared of being hurt again, which is understandable. However, you cannot let the fear of pain get in the way of what u stand to gain if you just...believe.

All people walking this Earth are just that, only people. We all fuck up. We do. And it is only in understanding that that we can accept situations for what they are. To you, Raekwon may be labeled "love of my life", but to Raekwon, he's just Raekwon. And u labeling him differently won't take away from the fact that he is who he is. Similarly, if Raekwon dubs u the love of his life are u gonna change your behaviors to reflect that title? NO. You will still be Koko. (btw all these names were made up in my ghetto fantasies...they are not real people). And reality is that before Raekwon, Koko fucked with Malik, Dayshawn, had a baby by Lil Nutsack, etc. There were situations before the one you were in. Why? Because your love's life did not begin with you.

Often times u set yourself up for bullshit. You meet someone, are swept off you feet, THEY fuck up, and then u walk around thinking that everyone is the same. So rather than judge Raekwon for who he is, u judge him for who Malik is. U walk in hating Malik and dooming your relationship with Raekwon. Then when u push him away after the most miniscule fuck up you're hating him and wondering why he leeeeeaaaaving. But, rather than placing the blame on yourself, rather than looking to see how u can change your mindset to make it better, u blame it on the thing that can't defend itself. And now yo silly ass hates love. Ole bitter ass bag lady.

And Raekwon, you not no better. Koko ain't Shatawna. U cannot hope to establish a foundation with Koko if u got 3 chicks on the side because Shatawna hurt u so much that u decided to be a playa. It don't work like that. Get your shit figured out before you attempt a real relationship. Because it's not fair to you, it's not fair to Koko, and it's not fair to love.

Please stop with the bitter act. It's tired and unnecessary. I am someone who has been very unfortunate in love. But I'm not blaming it on love. I've just come across some real assholes, and I've been a really big asshole. Love didn't fuck me over. Duck fucked me over. Love didn't fuck Bunny over, I fucked Bunny over. And I took those situations and dealt with them. Now Duck and I and Bunny and I are best friends, and my abulity to love is still intact.

I realize I rambled but my point is: Stop saying you don't believe in love and be specific. Because making that genrealization makes you a self fulfilling prophecy, and gives u license to fuck up every good thing placed in front of you.

peace.